How I got over my husband’s sudden death

By: Beatriz Alvarez (Spain)

We seemed invincible. We had a wonderful life, two amazing young children, a beautiful house, an interesting job and, above all, a very clear and exciting future life planned ahead of us. The news was waiting for me when I returned from work: my husband had died in an accident and in an instant, that future that seemed so clear suddenly disappeared and my life was shattered into a thousand pieces.

There is no easy way to get through the sudden death of your husband. I lost weight, I cried, I couldn’t sleep, and I didn’t want to get out of bed. I also knew that I could not break down: I was alone to provide for the children, and I focused on that.

The lessons I learned:

1.- You have to be grateful for the good things that happen to you and that you don’t value. I was grateful for having known authentic love, motherhood and having a wonderful network of family and friends that I relied on.

2.- Life goes on forcefully. For children there is only the present and that is what I focused on: going little by little, day by day. Do not set long-term goals but live in the short term as much as possible.

3.- I also realized that this force of life makes you move forward and, at the same time, gives you other opportunities that you already thought you would never live again.

4.- You have to choose how to face these difficult situations: either wondering why this happened to me and remaining in bitterness, or taking advantage of newfound empathy, which until then I had not felt with such intensity, and which brings one closer to the suffering of the rest.

5- The unbearable pain dissipates little by little, until it becomes a memory with which you are able to live. In time, you are even able to be happy again, which was seemingly impossible.

6.- You have to let yourself be helped by your family and friends network. In life we ​​are not alone and we must allow ourselves to be helped and, at the same time, help others, which is in fact what we are here for.

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Rafael
19 May 2021

Thank you for sharing. I’m absolutely positive your children are forever grateful for this strength you kept showing as you moved forward!

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